A first date is what you make of it. You have two choices. You can get yourself all worked up, sweaty palms and all, pretend that you are comfortable and having a great time while all the while you feel as though you are having a major anxiety attack. Or you can relax, be yourself, put your date at ease in the process, and have a great time. Nothing in life is perfect. Our level of happiness depends so much on how we choose to look at things. A new date should feel like an exciting adventure, not a job interview.