When a spouse has an affair, it feels as if you are not going to survive, but you will. You need to stay strong, and do things that make you happy. You also need to have someone to talk to and be able to get the comfort and support you need. Counseling will help and staying busy, so not lay around or you will get depressed. It will take time, but all wounds heal and you will eventually push it back, although you will never forget.