First, put away the chocolates, the flowers, and the jewelry. These things, though nice gestures, are not the means of how to make a girl love you. It is impossible to make anyone love you, but to gain the love or respect of another, it is always best to keep the golden rule in mind: love your neighbor as you love yourself. This is important (and a little more difficult than the simply ‘Treat others how you would want to be treated’ saying), because you must relaize that you cannot love another if you do not first love yourself. I don’t mean arrogance or vanity, but true, self-respecting love and appreciation for who God created you to be. Confidence and self-assurance are two of the most attractive qualities one can possess.