The most effective way I have found to de-stress your life, is to face your issues head on, and eliminate the causes one by one. Whether by educating yourself how to handle things better, or change them to make them more manageable. This process helps you deal with the outcome of your issues. Then, take time every day, for yourself. Find a place that you can go, to do what you want to do. Pamper yourself once a day and be a happier person.